Bondage sex, submission, domination, A recurring sexual fantasy, but it is not as they paint it. Erotic practices that belong to the BDSM universe ( bondage -discipline, domination-submission, sadism and masochism) and that are considered by some experts as a paraphilia—although they are only considered a disorder if they hurt someone else—are usually complex. These types of sexual activities include being tied, dominated and enslaved by a “sovereign” or “mistress” (that literally means the word “ dominatrix ”) and obtaining sexual satisfaction through subjection, punishment and humiliation Dominatrix Seattle.
According to some sexologists and historians, bondage – a discipline has its origins in the Victorian era, and is mainly related to restraints, spanking, humiliation and a relationship of consensual oppression-submission that has to do with a kind of sexual staging. where the participants abide by certain rules, punishments and a master and slave relationship is established.
To learn more about bondage sex , we spoke with an expert dominatrix who tells us the details of these practices.
Her name is Claudia and she would like to hurt you (and humiliate you)
Claudia is a lawyer, she is 32 years old and has worked as a dominatrix for almost five years . “Actually I do it for the pure pleasure, I don’t dedicate myself 100% to this. “My ex-husband introduced me to that underworld . ” Her entrance was a gift: some DVD movies with XXX sadomasochism themes, a black leather suit, a leather mask with closures in the mouth and a whip for her. The request for wild sex, where she would be the ruler, came later. She refused at first, but she found pleasure in mistreating him in bed. “ It was like becoming a different person, I loved it, my character on the internet is called Ofelia; “I love to sexually humiliate men and the occasional woman ,” she says of this practice that also extends to other cultures such as Japan, where shibari is popular .
Do you want to enter said game? You must be sure.
According to Claudia, many men have a hidden fantasy of feeling humiliated and hurt, of feeling weak and vulnerable to reinforce their sensitivity. Whatever your reason (even if it is purely hedonistic), if you decide to experiment with BDSM you must convince yourself that you really want it. To 100%. The fact that from time to time you turn to your favorite dominatrix does not mean that you have become a masochist, but that you are a person who likes to experience new sensations and to whom pain can be revealed as a new pleasure.
You must swallow your pride and put your ego aside
“In this game, respect for dignity is lost, you are a slave ,” says the interviewee. The practice of sadomasochism can include beatings, physical and psychological humiliation, eschatology and acts of extreme submission. It all depends on what was agreed and it is not recommended that the first few times you carry out this practice without some previously agreed restriction, otherwise you can end up quite damaged (in many aspects, both physically and psychologically).
You must be willing to do anything (even deception)
In some cases, dominatrix humiliation can include the “mistress” resorting to having sex with someone else in front of their partner (men known as cuckolds , who get turned on by their partner being unfaithful in front of them). “You must be willing to do anything, to have anything done to you, even to suffer a little physical pain and lose your modesty,” says Claudia.
The safe word
This is basic for any couple who has sex. You and your dominatrix should have a safe word in case you feel like the situation is getting out of control. “It is important that the dominatrix is aware that this is a sexual game and nothing more, and that she respects the agreed safe word in case you want to stop permanently,” says the interviewee about BDSM . It is also worth making a list of sexual desires. In one section what they want to accomplish; in another, what you probably — depending on the heat of the moment — “could” ask for. And finally, the extreme desires that are things you want to experience, which must be resolved or decided during the session.
You must be tolerant
Finally, this sexual exercise in some way represents your understanding that both a man and a woman can have control at a certain moment, as long as it is absolute common agreement. “Remember, you are a slave, a submissive servant and your dominatrix is like Cleopatra subduing her subjects and forcing them to please her ,” says the interviewee. “Also, you should be aware that your orgasm is not exactly the purpose of being subdued by a dominatrix . On the contrary, perhaps your punishment is not being able to climax in the session while your dominatrix reaches high levels of pleasure,” she concludes.